I felt like I was now mourning a baby that I never had while still carrying a very healthy baby. I was picking out boy clothes and pinning baby boy nurseries on Pinterest. I was talking to him, picking out names and creating fictional scenarios with my baby boy. For over 3 months I thought I was having a baby boy. I just sat in my car.Īll I could think about was I’ve been lied to about this baby. My husband again left to return to his day at work. My poor husband was in the corner of the room not knowing who to pass the tissues to and who to console. I apologized to her for being so wrapped up in a gender and not thinking of the blessing that was right in front of me. She apologized for sharing her story and that she didn’t mean to upset me. I wanted to hold her and make her tears go away. That she recently lost her husband and father to her young child and that without her two sisters she could not have gotten through it.Īt this point, we were both crying. That her sisters were the most amazing people on earth. She then began to tell me that she actually had 2 sisters. I became flooded with emotions all over again. Sure enough, there on that 5 foot projection screen there it was. I went into the room hoping for the best (the tech before was wrong), yet expecting the obvious. This baby could still be a boy, she did say she couldn’t with 100% certainty after all. I went into their office still in denial. They were gracious enough to agree to see me the next morning. I called a local imaging center and asked for them to please make time to see me ASAP. I completed the rest of the routine questions and went to cry in my car. He proceeded to remind me about how this decision was definite and there was no turning back. Ahhhhhh! Now cue the additional tears. He then said I didn’t need to make up my mind at this present moment, but I needed to make up my mind soon. Why would you ask me that? Who knows? Yes we’re done, but wait should we try again. He said “so now that you know you’re having another girl, are we still planning to tie your tubes at your c section?” One that I thought I would never have to answer again. One that I thought I had already made up my mind about. I was basically scolded for even using “one of those tests” and told how I never should’ve relied on such a thing. My guess is that this wasn’t his first rodeo, but also the bedside manner could’ve used some work. He saw my face and had heard about my breakdown. It wasn’t my usual Doctor, it was one from his practice. Shortly after I managed to somewhat compose myself the Doctor came in. She went on to tell me she had 2 girls and a little boy. That my feelings were valid and understandable. She kept saying I didn’t need to be sorry. I kept apologizing to the nurse, because in the back of my mind I thought, what if she is currently struggling to get pregnant and here I am complaining about which one I got. A nurse came in to take my blood pressure and asked if I was okay. I sat there numb and staring off into space. The tech stated that we could do another scan but it wouldn’t be possible for a few weeks because of the holidays. I was then moved into an exam room to meet with the doctor. We shot blue confetti into the sky for freaking sake. We had a gender reveal party, with all of our friends and family. There are no other males in my house that could’ve skewed the test. He wasn’t even home when I took the test. I followed all the instructions to the T. The company said that they were 99.1% accurate with their tests. She must be wrong! She has to be wrong! It must’ve been the angle. After what felt like forever, she said “I can’t say with 100% confirmation…but I’m sorry to tell you, I think that your blood test was incorrect.” The entire time we were doing the anatomy scan I kept seeing her go over the area and then back. We said that we already had a blood test, we are having a baby boy, but a visual confirmation would be appreciated. The tech asked if we wanted to know the sex of the baby. So I’ll get to it! A few weeks ago we were doing a routine ultrasound. I am so lucky that I have been blessed with the ability to create another life. I will start by saying that I am so very grateful to be carrying a healthy baby. This is slightly controversial and I want you to hear me out… I’ve learned that there are many like me. I put my trust into a company that was supposedly reliable and only to learn that after doing some research- I’m not the first to have this happen to them. Unfortunately, I have been duped, deceived…I just feel like I’ve been lied to. I’ve emotionally had to process this whole thing for some time. One that I never thought I would be making. So it’s time for me to make an announcement.
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